Finding support for Lupus? Connect with people like you.

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Life with Lupus is an online patient support community powered by BensFriends.org — a trusted network of support groups for rare diseases.

Our mission at Ben’s Friends is to ensure that people living with Lupus or other chronic illnesses, along with their caregivers, family, and friends, have a safe and supportive place to connect.

Here, members can share experiences, ask questions, and find comfort from others who truly understand. Share your Lupus story at our community!

Lupus is a chronic inflammatory disease that occurs when your body’s immune system attacks your own tissues and organs. Inflammation caused by lupus can affect many different body systems — including your joints, skin, kidneys, blood cells, brain, heart and lungs.

Lupus can be difficult to diagnose because its signs and symptoms often mimic those of other ailments. The most distinctive sign of lupus — a facial rash that resembles the wings of a butterfly unfolding across both cheeks — occurs in many but not all cases of lupus.

Certain people inherit a tendency to develop lupus, and infections, specific drugs, or even sunlight can trigger it. Doctors cannot cure lupus, but treatments help control its symptoms.

LifewithLupus.org is a virtual peer-to-peer community intended to be a safe place for patients and family members as young as age 12, to visit for information, discussion, venting and mutual support. Members come from many backgrounds. Some have a strong religious faith, and others no faith; some are children and others adults, rich and poor, graduate educated or taught by life. Our common denominators are that we share a life journey, and we try to help each other.

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How is Ben’s Friends Different from Social Media and Other Support Sites?

Our mission at Ben’s Friends is to ensure that patients living with rare diseases or chronic illnesses, as well as their caregivers, family, and friends, have a safe and supportive place to connect with others like them.

We’re interested in you as a person, and in your struggles as a rare disease patient.  But we don’t want to know your name or where you live. We won’t even allow you to use your real name when you register for one of our communities. Because when it comes to medical things, anonymity is important in our googly universe.  Your information is never shared, and your activity never tracked by adware.

When Ben’s Friends asks for the country and region you live in, that’s in case your fellow members can recommend local resources and help, and so everyone knows what kind of medical system there is where you live.  That’s important when it comes to giving and getting support. Because we are all about support, and we’re all in this together.. 

Ben’s Friends: Safe and Supportive. 
And anonymous to keep it that way.

Why create an account?

Posts on the different Ben’s Friends communities can be read by anyone on the internet. You can browse through the different topics and find most of the information you’re looking for but there are many things you won’t be able to do unless you create an account. These include:

Making your own posts. Although you’re able to find useful information just by reading other members’ posts, you might still have a lot of questions in your mind. Either you want to start a new topic to talk about them in detail or you want to reply to a comment on a thread. These won’t be possible unless you create a new user account.

Viewing other members’ profiles. Member profiles include information about the country or region they are from, whether they are a patient or a caregiver, and details about their disease and treatments. Maybe you came across an interesting post and you want to learn more about the member. Or maybe you’re looking for members who are from the same country as you. Having a user account allows you to see other member profiles and find information that may be relevant.  

Sending private messages. Aside from being able to post publicly and commenting on a thread, having a user account also allows you to send private messages both to other members and moderators. In case you want to discuss a topic only with a specific person, this is possible by sending private messages when you have created your account.

Click here to create an account and join.

Latest Discussions

  • Coping with Lupus: Proven Strategies & Inspiration from Nick Cannon
    by ModSupport on November 9, 2025

    Living with lupus can be physically and emotionally draining — but it’s also a journey of resilience. Actor, musician, and host Nick Cannon has shown the world that life doesn’t end with a lupus diagnosis — it simply changes direction. Nick was diagnosed with lupus nephritis, a form of lupus that affects the kidneys, in 2012. Instead of […]

  • Finding Strength with Lupus — Lessons from Selena Gomez
    by ModSupport on November 9, 2025

    Living with lupus can feel overwhelming — fatigue, joint pain, skin rashes, and the uncertainty of flare-ups. But many people thrive, and one high-profile example is pop star Selena Gomez, who was diagnosed with lupus and underwent a kidney transplant in 2017. What we can learn from her story: Self-care is non-negotiable. Selena took time away […]

  • 3/31/2025 – Warm Welcomes to our new members!
    by moja on March 31, 2025

    Hey Yall! There have been some new members who have joined recently! I look forward to getting to know yall and discussing all of these fun facts while also supporting each other! Have a great week! @Grace2 Signed up her roommate and they are from Texas! A fun fact about Texas is that the state is bigger than any country in Europe. @Clozano23 is […]

  • Volunteer Opportunity: Marketing Manager (Email + Social Media)
    by Ben Munoz on March 11, 2025

    Do you have experience with marketing and a knack for crafting engaging content? Ben’s Friends is seeking volunteers for two distinct Marketing Manager roles—one focused on email marketing and the other on social media. Both roles play a vital part in helping us communicate with our members and supporters. Key Responsibilities Email […]

  • First time posting!
    by moja on February 4, 2025

    Hi everyone! My name is Molly and I am currently a student at the University of Michigan! I was diagnosed with Lupus 10 days before I went to college (talk about a whirlwind of events). After my senior year of high school filled with chronic fatigue, muscle aches, and my hair falling out I decided that I wanted to find a why to these symptoms. I […]